Category Archives: The Change Process

You Go First: Heroic Relationship Change

Do you know the number one killer of relationship change and growth in my practice? It’s when both partners say, in some fashion: “I’ll change when he/she changes.” Think about this for a minute. What’s the likely outcome of this … Continue reading

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Ready Or Not . . . Just GO!

One of my goals for 2014 is to write a book. In one year. Not like those crazy Nanowrimo overachievers, whose goal is to write a novel in one month. No, no, I’m giving my self a whole year. But we’re … Continue reading

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What’s Next? Moving Past Shame To Action

Radical change is like crack to me. I live for the adrenaline rush of a big, new thing. So when I sit down to make New Year’s resolutions, I’m like a sugar addict opening up a new bag of Oreos, … Continue reading

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To Those Who Are Waiting

You know that final scene in the movie Love Actually when everyone is greeting each other in the airport? I was THERE, in that very scene, on Wednesday night when my husband, daughter and I went to the Omaha airport … Continue reading

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“That’s Mine; You Have Yours.” – Why You Should Do You

Snowflakes are falling outside my window as I write this, big and little ones together, and I can’t take my eyes off of them. Most of the flakes are gliding on the wind at the same diagonal angle, like the … Continue reading

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5 Tips For When You’re Stuck

So. It’s February. How are those resolutions going? I know, right? It seemed so easy at first, so possible. You read a blog post about breaking bad habits, you identified your triggers and payoffs, you set your goals and set … Continue reading

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3 Steps To Breaking Bad (Habits)

Okay, all you New Year’s resolution people – this one’s for you. A habit in and of itself is not necessarily a bad thing. Our brain likes making habits, because habits allow the brain to function more efficiently. Take, for … Continue reading

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Conquering Our Inner Toddler – Letting Others Help

When my children were young, my husband and I often used a trick to get them to accomplish a task that was important to us but somehow distasteful to them. The trick (stop me if you’ve used this one) went … Continue reading

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The Change Process – It Gets Worse Before It Gets Better

At a recent meeting to discuss a city improvement project affecting our neighborhood, I had the opportunity to request the planting of a new tree on the parking area in front of my home. I was thrilled when my request … Continue reading

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The Change Process – Embracing Emptiness

“Emptiness, which is conceptually liable to be mistaken for sheer nothingness, is in fact the reservoir of infinite possibilities.” – D.T. Suzuki I’ve been thinking a lot about change lately. This is partly because I encounter change each day in … Continue reading

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