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You Go First: Heroic Relationship Change
Do you know the number one killer of relationship change and growth in my practice? It’s when both partners say, in some fashion: “I’ll change when he/she changes.” Think about this for a minute. What’s the likely outcome of this … Continue reading
Posted in Hitch Fix, Relationships, The Change Process
Tagged change, couples, Relationships, vulnerability
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Ready Or Not . . . Just GO!
One of my goals for 2014 is to write a book. In one year. Not like those crazy Nanowrimo overachievers, whose goal is to write a novel in one month. No, no, I’m giving my self a whole year. But we’re … Continue reading
Posted in Out Of My Mind, The Change Process, Writing
Tagged change, New Year's resolutions, self-improvement
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What’s Next? Moving Past Shame To Action
Radical change is like crack to me. I live for the adrenaline rush of a big, new thing. So when I sit down to make New Year’s resolutions, I’m like a sugar addict opening up a new bag of Oreos, … Continue reading
Posted in Out Of My Mind, The Change Process
Tagged acceptance, change, inner critic, New Year's resolutions, self-improvement
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To Those Who Are Waiting
You know that final scene in the movie Love Actually when everyone is greeting each other in the airport? I was THERE, in that very scene, on Wednesday night when my husband, daughter and I went to the Omaha airport … Continue reading
Posted in Out Of My Mind, The Change Process
Tagged change, letting go of control, self-improvement, waiting
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Snot Rockets And Sailing Ships: Making Meaning Out Of The Mess
Snot Rockets My daughter Emily has never been much of a hiker. Bright and beautiful, and possessing a quick wit and an exceptionally kind heart, Emily has many talents and interests. Walking in the woods until you sweat is just … Continue reading
“That’s Mine; You Have Yours.” – Why You Should Do You
Snowflakes are falling outside my window as I write this, big and little ones together, and I can’t take my eyes off of them. Most of the flakes are gliding on the wind at the same diagonal angle, like the … Continue reading
Posted in Out Of My Mind, The Change Process
Tagged change, independence, self esteem, self-improvement
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Starting Over When We Forget
Imagine you’re in a committed partnership with someone you love very much. Imagine that, although things aren’t always perfect, you’re happy and confident in your love and your life with this person, and have a wealth of memories to remind … Continue reading
Posted in Hitch Fix, Relationships
Tagged breaking up, change, couples, divorce, loneliness, loss, Relationships, staying together
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5 Tips For When You’re Stuck
So. It’s February. How are those resolutions going? I know, right? It seemed so easy at first, so possible. You read a blog post about breaking bad habits, you identified your triggers and payoffs, you set your goals and set … Continue reading
Posted in Life Lines, The Change Process
Tagged change, habits, inner critic, New Year's resolutions, self-improvement
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3 Steps To Breaking Bad (Habits)
Okay, all you New Year’s resolution people – this one’s for you. A habit in and of itself is not necessarily a bad thing. Our brain likes making habits, because habits allow the brain to function more efficiently. Take, for … Continue reading
Posted in Balance, Life Lines, Mindfulness, The Change Process
Tagged change, habits, inner critic, New Year's resolutions, self esteem, self-improvement
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