Category Archives: Hitch Fix
Making Time For Acts Of Love
People often say you can tell what’s important to someone by scanning a few lines of their checkbook. Yeah, there’s a certain truth to that, but I think an even more telling reveal of a person’s priorities are the items … Continue reading
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Needy Isn’t Sexy: Are You Pushing Your Partner Further Away?
We’ve all been there. Well, maybe not all of us. But more of us than you might think. Here’s what happens: Our partner starts to spend more time at work, or more time out with friends, leaving us home alone … Continue reading
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It’s Time To Get Real In Your Relationship
“I don’t like how I behave when I’m with my partner.” “I don’t know who I am anymore.” “I’ve sacrificed too much in this relationship.” In my work with couples, I’ve heard so many people say these words, or something … Continue reading
You Go First: Heroic Relationship Change
Do you know the number one killer of relationship change and growth in my practice? It’s when both partners say, in some fashion: “I’ll change when he/she changes.” Think about this for a minute. What’s the likely outcome of this … Continue reading
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The Gift Of A Long-Term Partnership
So I was on my way home from an educational conference, waiting in line at the Starbucks in the North Satellite terminal at SEA-TAC. The food area – in fact the entire terminal – was quite crowded, and the long … Continue reading
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Finding Shared Meaning In Holiday Conflict
I wanted the multi-colored lights. I didn’t want to discuss it; I just desperately wanted multi-colored lights on the tree. In my family, we always used multi-colored lights. And strung popcorn-cranberry chains. And placed an angel on the top. I … Continue reading
Marriage Myth-Busters Myth #6: The Kids Come First
I don’t know how to type out the sound that the “You’re wrong!” buzzer makes on a game show (your creative suggestions are welcome in the comments below), but if I did, I would have started out this blog with … Continue reading
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Marriage Myth-Busters Myth #5: We Can’t Survive An Affair
Okay, we’re gonna take on a big topic here, so gird your loins. Reliable statistics on affairs are understandably hard to come by (would YOU tell that truth on a survey?), but most point to the rate of infidelity having … Continue reading
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Marriage Myth-Busters Myth #4: The Right Relationship Should Be Easy
Cautionary Tale #1 The couple had been married for many years, and their long relationship had witnessed and supported several geographical moves, the raising of five awesome children and two career changes. Despite the longevity, dependability (and productivity!) of their … Continue reading
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Marriage Myth-Busters Myth #3: The First Years Are The Best
My husband and I recently visited my alma mater for my 30th reunion. (Yes, that says 30th, and I assure you that I am as shocked by that high number as I hope you are.) Now, it just so happens … Continue reading
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