Tag Archives: Relationships
It’s Time To Get Real In Your Relationship
“I don’t like how I behave when I’m with my partner.” “I don’t know who I am anymore.” “I’ve sacrificed too much in this relationship.” In my work with couples, I’ve heard so many people say these words, or something … Continue reading
You Go First: Heroic Relationship Change
Do you know the number one killer of relationship change and growth in my practice? It’s when both partners say, in some fashion: “I’ll change when he/she changes.” Think about this for a minute. What’s the likely outcome of this … Continue reading
Posted in Hitch Fix, Relationships, The Change Process
Tagged change, couples, Relationships, vulnerability
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Finding Shared Meaning In Holiday Conflict
I wanted the multi-colored lights. I didn’t want to discuss it; I just desperately wanted multi-colored lights on the tree. In my family, we always used multi-colored lights. And strung popcorn-cranberry chains. And placed an angel on the top. I … Continue reading
8 Conversation Tips When It’s Your Turn To Speak
Most of us don’t have too much trouble speaking our mind in an argument (much easier than listening, yes?). But, if we’re honest, we have to admit that we could all use a little tune-up in the style department, some … Continue reading
Posted in Communication, Hitch Fix, Life Lines
Tagged communication, couples, Relationships, self-improvement
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Starting Over When We Forget
Imagine you’re in a committed partnership with someone you love very much. Imagine that, although things aren’t always perfect, you’re happy and confident in your love and your life with this person, and have a wealth of memories to remind … Continue reading
Posted in Hitch Fix, Relationships
Tagged breaking up, change, couples, divorce, loneliness, loss, Relationships, staying together
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8 Tips To Improve Your Listening Skills
“Now, children, I want you to put on your listening ears . . . “ Even in our earliest memories, it seems as though someone is always trying to get us to listen. And yet, as adults we still wrestle … Continue reading
Posted in Communication, Hitch Fix, Life Lines
Tagged communication, listening, Relationships
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Yes, We Can Make a Difference
So, I’m kind of pathetic. I used to have this website plug-in for something called a Cluster Map that posted a small, colorful, sometimes twinkling, map in the upper right-hand corner of my blog landing page. The map showed the numbers and … Continue reading
Keeping Cool – Communication Tips For When You Heat Up
You know how it goes. You set out to have a calm conversation with your teenager or your partner and, before you know it, you’re both yelling like banshees or retreating in sullen, angry silence to your respective corners. You’re … Continue reading
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Tagged communication, Relationships
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Making A Bigger Table
In honor of Thanksgiving . . . In honor of family, members who have died and those who live on to keep the traditions . . . In honor of big tables that always have room for another chair . … Continue reading
I Statements For Dummies
Yeah, yeah, yeah. We all know we should try to use “I statements” when we are speaking with someone about a difficult topic. I statements provide clarity regarding our thinking and feeling about an event, and keep us calm and … Continue reading
